Finding out that your child is on the autism spectrum isn’t easy for any parent. You may find that you’re confused, full of questions, and curious about what type of future this means your child will have. While you may feel a mix of emotions right now, don’t worry, life with autism is not like it used to be. There are many parents who are raising a child on the autism spectrum who are here to help. If you want to know what the top 5 tips for new autism parents are, based on the research of what other parents have said, then please continue reading to learn what you should know.
5 Tips for New Autism Parents
Don’t Blame Anything or Anyone
The immediate feeling most parents shared that they feel when they first get the diagnosis that their child has autism is blame. While some autism parents blame themselves, others will pass the blame to other things or people. Let go of trying to blame or find answers for what caused your child to receive this autism diagnosis. When it comes to this diagnosis you won’t be able to find any solid answers or any solid way to blame someone or something else.
Learn all that You Can
Now that you know your child has autism, it’s important to learn everything you can about your child’s new diagnosis. Connect with parents in groups and forums who are raising a child on the autism spectrum. Know that the autism spectrum is very broad, some children are non-verbal and some are high functioning. When trying to seek advice or resources, be sure you’re looking at the advice that’s geared towards your child’s diagnosis of autism, such as non-verbal or high functioning.
It’s Okay to Be Scared
There are so many useful resources online as well as scary resources out there. Learn to take each piece of knowledge with a grain of salt. Know that this is a scary time for you and you may find false alarms on the internet. Reach out to family and friends during this time to release all of your fears so that you are able to move forward in raising your autistic child in a positive way. Getting that autism diagnosis for the first time is always a scary moment for every parent, it is okay to be scared.
Take Your Child Out
Learn what environments work best for your autistic child. Your child may have sensitivities to noise or light, but you can still take your child out to enjoy everyday activities. Plan your outings with your autistic child for low traffic times at local shops, playgrounds, and parks. This helps your child learn to cope with their environment in a low key, minimally intimidating way. Allow your child to interact at their own level when out in public with you.
Accept and Love Your Child for Who They Are
Lastly, this is the most important tip I can give any new autism parent, learn to accept and love your child for who they are. This beautiful, amazing, wonderful child may have a literal thinking pattern, they may say things when they shouldn’t and they may be socially awkward but they will give the most wonderful memories of all. Embrace this new parenthood, and learn to love the life your child is living, for that will cure all of your other fears and allow both of you to grow a bond unlike any other. Raising a child with autism certainly opens your mind to new ways of thinking about life.
There are many more tips I could give you as a new autism parent, but I think these will cover the bases just enough. Welcome to a whole new world that will leave you laughing one moment and crying the next while shaking your head in between those moments. Raising a child with autism will be exhausting some days and you will wonder why this happened, but let all of that go and embrace this new journey in parenthood that will also be an amazing fulfilling journey.
Explaining Autism Spectrum Disorder to Siblings
I was recently sent a book called “Stewie Boom and Princess Penelope” written by Christine Bronstein, and I was extremely impressed by the way it breaks down and explains ASD to children. It shows children that no one is the same, we all have different handprints, likes, and dislikes, and even our brains work differently.
The story starts off talking about the differences between 2 brothers and their sister, and then the setting turns to a classroom where they learn more about how people are different, which leads up to Stewie, Zoom, Penelope having a playdate with Eric a boy on the Autism Spectrum.
I read this book to all 3 of my kids and they all loved it, I wish I had it available when Anthony was younger and Aidan was diagnosed.
Plus, the back of the book is packed with tips for parents and families.
This is an autism resource I definitely recommend for new Autism Parents.
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