5 Signs Your Aging Parent Might Need Extra Support at Home

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If you’ve been spending some time with your aging parents and noticed that things are not quite right, it is not something that you should simply brush aside. It may very well be something serious.

It may start out with you noticing some of very little things. For example, there may be a stack of unopened mail or even spoiled food in the fridge. 

It may even be as extreme as noticing that there is a remote in the freezer. These small and unusual occurrences are some of the earliest signs that your loved one is in need of some support at home. Always trust your instinct, even if things don’t seem to be a big deal at the very beginning. 

These small issues will often point to bigger underlying ones, such as cognitive decline or even emotional distress. It is very easy to start second-guessing yourself when you are trying to be as respectful to your parents’ independence as you can be. If you feel this way, then know that you are not alone. Many adult children struggle to find a balance between giving their children space and stepping in at just the right time.

Memory Slips Go Beyond Normal

We all forget names or even misplace our keys occasionally. However, if you notice that your parents are consistently repeating the same stories over and over again and that they’re forgetting recent events, then it is an issue. You may also notice that they are showing signs of confusion. This could be a lot more than just normal aging. One of the major differences between the usual forgetfulness and something more serious is whether the memory loss is consistent.

If you’re feeling unsure about what is normal and what is not then there are tools available that will help you to find out exactly what you are noticing. For example, an Alzheimer’s test kit provides a good starting point for understanding memory issues. It is not about labeling your parent in any way. It is about making sure you are getting useful information that will help you make the most informed decisions possible. 

Memory issues can affect a lot of things. It can make your parent take medication incorrectly or handle their bills inefficiently. It may even affect how safe they are in and outside of the home. If you’ve noticed that they may be getting lost when they are in familiar places or have difficulty following a conversation, then it’s time for you to get a medical professional involved.

Changes In Hygiene Or Daily Habits

Another red flag that you should be paying attention to is a noticeable decline in their current personal hygiene. If your parent was one who used to take pride in how they look but now they are wearing the same clothes almost every day, then it is a red flag. 

If they are skipping showers or even neglecting their grooming, these are all possible signs that they are struggling mentally as well as physically. Sometimes it’s not about forgetfulness; it might just be a mobility issue, or it could even be depression. 

Make sure you are looking for patterns rather than just isolated incidents. You may also notice that their home is getting messier or that food is not being prepared regularly. These are all indicators that they may need some help at home. Providing support is not always about moving them from the comfort of their home. It might just mean that you hire a part-time caregiver or set up meal delivery for them. 

Mood Swings, Isolation or Personality Shifts

If you notice that your parent is becoming a lot more withdrawn and irritable at the same time. This emotional behavior change is often a major sign that they are struggling but do not know just how to express it. Isolation, in particular, can have a huge impact on mental health. If your parent has stopped seeing their friends, attending religious or community events that they once enjoyed, it could be a cry for you to help them.

Be sure to keep an eye out for mood swings as well as paranoia. Pay keen attention to aggressive behavior, especially if it’s new or it looks like it’s getting worse. These kinds of changes are often overlooked or just misattributed to aging, but it does deserve some compassion and attention.

Get the Right Help, You Don’t Have to Do it Alone

Recognizing that your parent may need some support is often the first step to what can be an overwhelming issue. The good news is that you don’t have to figure it out all by yourself. You can start by having open and respectful conversations with them. Be sure to express your concern in gentle, kind ways. You can then offer them practical solutions, don’t just issue ultimatums. 

You should also consult with their primary care physician or a geriatric specialist if you can. They may be able to recommend assessments as well as in-home care options available in your area. They may also be able to refer you to Specialists such as a therapist or neurologist. 

Throughout this entire process, make sure that you are taking care of yourself. When you are caring for a parent logistically and emotionally, it can become very draining. You should reach out to your local support groups or contact community organizations because they can help you to navigate these challenges.

Let Compassion Be Your Guide

It is never going to be easy to watch your parents age, especially when there are signs that suggest you might need to get them some more help. It is especially difficult if they are not willing to admit that they need it. By making sure that you take notice and ask the right questions, you can get the help that you need so that they can keep their dignity. Your role isn’t to fix everything that is wrong; it’s simply to be a loving advocate to make sure that your parent is staying safe and healthy.