How To Know Who Your Truest Friends Are
A friend is a wonderful thing to have. Many people assume that the more you have, the better, but really one fantastic and quality friend can take the place of one hundred mediocre connections.
This is commonly found out when you need help or are going through a tough time in your life. The real friends you have will be happy to stick around and will continually check up on you. Those who fail to care as much as they really claim will possibly start distancing themselves from you, or perhaps just drift away over time. This isn’t necessarily because of anything you’ve both done wrong, after all no one is obligated to close friendship, but it’s a good sign that this person isn’t as close as they might have you believe.
But of course, it’s not just in these circumstances that friendships matter. In this post, we’ll discuss a few alternative ways you can understand who you truest friends are. With that in mind, please consider:
They Come Even When It’s Not Convenient
Trust friends are the people who will make time for you, even if it means a small inconvenience for them. They might rearrange plans or drop what they’re doing just to help you when it matters most. This isn’t something you should expect all the time of course, but when someone genuinely cares, you can feel it, and it’s not about grand gestures either but the quiet consistency they show over time. Even when they’re busy, they’ll find a way to be there, and it shows how much they value you. If they can’t (they have lives too of course), they’ll express regret. It’s how close friendships often bind with one another.
Criticism Is Constructive, But Not Judgement-Based
If someone can criticize your actions but not you as a person, that’s a healthy friend. They’re honest but in a way that lifts you up rather than makes you feel small. They might tell you that you’re in the wrong, but it won’t feel like an attack – it’ll feel like guidance to make you feel more in tune with yourself, and always with your wellbeing in mind. There’s always a difference between friends who criticize to help you grow and those who judge because they feel superior, and it’s essential to keep that in mind. Moreover, a friend that can criticize you healthily is much better than someone who never ever does so.
When Tough Situations Happen, They Hold You Closer
When tough experiences come your way as they do for us all, good friends hold us closer. Some don’t. It’s not always personal, but it does say something about the strength of a friendship. Those who really care won’t shy away from your pain or struggles; instead, they’ll find ways to support you, no matter if you’re going through a divorce, unexpected pregnancy, job loss or personal loss, as it’s during life’s harder moments that the best friendships become even more meaningful, and you realize just how important they are in your life.
With this advice, you’ll be sure to continually understand how you truest friends are, and this will lift you up more than anything else.
