My cousin posted this photo on my Facebook wall the other day, because she knew I would love it! 
 
Aidan, like about 1 in 50 children, has Autism, he is not a spoiled brat, he is not an undisciplined, loud mouth, pain in the A**!  He has a disability and he has to cope with it everyday as a toddler/preschooler!  My heart breaks for my child when I see him wonder aimlessly around flapping his arms, my heart breaks when he falls into a complete and total meltdown that leaves him screaming and inconsolable.  Imagine walking through life not knowing where your body was in space, imagine the rubbing of clothes against your body feeling like needles all over you, imagine not being able to listen to a sentence because a bird chirped outside and you cant block it out.  Now imagine dealing with all this as a toddler, not being able to vocalize how your feeling.
 
Yet we as a family still have to function, I have to go grocery shopping and run errands.  My children still deserve a sense of childhood so we still go to the playground and museums.  I refuse to let my son become a caged animal because others are ignorant.  I get the looks, the stares, I hear the comments under peoples breaths when Aidan begins to scream at the wrong moment.  I’ve heard stories from other Autism parents of being asked to leave shopping malls by security because of melt downs and children being kicked out of daycare facilities.  This makes me SICK!
 
Autism is an invisible disability, you cant look at a child and understand for a second what that child and their family goes through, yet for some reason it seems ok in our society for a person to be blatantly rude based on their own ignorance.  SO to everyone my child annoys in public, to everyone who snickers, who stares, who doesn’t understand why I am comforting a screaming child instead of disciplining him…. TOUGH, I will continue to live everyday, bringing him everywhere any normal child should be able to go…. Because my motto is, There is no cure for Autism, Ignorance on the other hand has one… Education!  So stop judging everyone else around you and go educate yourself!
 
 

3 Comments on At what point did ignorance become OK?

  1. Jessica
    August 10, 2013 at 12:06 am (4 years ago)

    I've definitely been there. I spent so much energy trying to shield our family from the stares and dirty looks-energy I should have been spending helping my little guy cope. I still remember the day that I realized that their opinions didn't matter as much as helping him cope.

    I hope this won't offend you, but I would love to link an article about what I wish people knew about being a special needs parent. (I know that is a huge blog faux, but it's not my blog, so I hope that makes it okay.) 🙂

    Anyway, I have been there and I love this post.

    http://7onashoestring.com/2012/08/open-letter-to-the-world-about-my-special-needs-kid.html

  2. Katrina
    August 12, 2013 at 6:12 pm (4 years ago)

    Thanks so much for the link Jessica! That post was amazing. It's so comforting at times to just realize your not alone, that a lot of other moms are going through the same feelings.

  3. Ginger
    August 15, 2013 at 1:26 am (4 years ago)

    It's disheartening when others are so judgmental when it comes to raising children, especially children with special needs. I always try to be understanding and sympathetic to other moms. It's not easy being a mother.